Banish The Word 'Should' From Your Life

I want you to banish the word ‘should’ from your life.

The word ‘should’ has a negative vibration. Just say it a few times in your head or out loud and you can feel it. It doesn’t feel good. It creates a heaviness in the heart and stress in the mind. ’Should’ implies that we aren’t doing something that we need to be doing. ‘Should’ suggests that we are behaving badly. With the word ‘should’ often comes feelings of guilt and shame, and the feeling that we’re not good enough in the present moment (which, by the way, is the only place life exists). 

‘Should’ also gets in the way of relationships. If you tell your partner they should be doing something that they’re not, or vice versa, chances are your mate is going to become defensive and close up. Whether from ourselves or others, when we are told that we ‘should’ do or be something we’re not already, we feel like we are not being accepted for who we are, in this present moment (the only place life exists!). 

Now, that is not to say that we do not need to do the personal work of evolving and becoming better versions of ourselves. I’m not suggesting that one should (there’s that word again) remove ‘should’ from their vocabulary because I want to let people get off the hook for living in ways that don’t serve themselves or the people around them. I believe it is our duty as souls on this earth at this time to do the work to move from limited states of consciousness towards expansion. That’s what I think brings the deepest fulfillment in life. This process, however, needs to be supported by a certain level of discipline and key behavioral components - like not using the word ‘should.’

There are other, kinder ways to motivate ourselves and other people to operate at our highest potentials. Words carry vibration, just like anything else, and research has shown that the energy charge of words affects living matter (check out Marasu Emoto’s work). We know ‘should’ carries a negative charge (just notice how your heart center feels when you focus on that word). What are some words that are more loving and compassionate? How might we speak to someone whom we are guiding from the openness of our hearts? What comes to mind for me are phrases like, “you might benefit from…” “It would probably serve you to…” “it’s a good idea to…” “you could think about doing….” “it would help me if you…” “I want you to…” “it feels great when you…” “you have the power to…” etc etc. 

So, I’m not going to tell you that you should or shouldn’t do anything (obviously). I’m just suggesting that it might assist you to remain at a higher vibrational level - the place where love and joy live - if you eliminate the words that make you feel bad and start using the words that make you feel good. 


Love, Joy, & Wellness,
Katya

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